Living in love is a conscious decision.

It’s a way of being. It’s how you show up in the world. When you live in love, you transform the world around you.

When my nephew was about one-and-a-half years old, he’d love on everyone and give them kisses. Then, thirty seconds later, he’d bite. That behavior didn’t sit well with me. This was during the time when I had first decided to live in a constant state of love. I didn’t understand his behavior, and it rubbed me the wrong way—you love me and hate me? He was very young, so what could I do? I can powerfully shift how I react, I thought. I said to myself, “I’m going to do everything out of love. When I write contracts, when I’m at the gym, when I react to him, it’s all going to be out of love.”

So, I practiced on him. Instead of saying, “Ow, that hurts. Don’t bite me,” I told him, “I like it when you hug me.” I told him about the good things. I didn’t focus on the bad things. Instead of “don’t” or “stop,” I said the opposite. When he hurt me again, I handed him to my sister and didn’t say a word. The second I handed him away, he wanted me. He instantly wanted me back and wanted my love. If I had told him to stop hitting me, he would have looked at me with challenge in his eyes to hit me even more. Yet, the moment I took the love away, he made a shift. If your intention is to do everything out of love, it’s amazing what results can happen. Essentially, more love. How else can this show up in a positive way?

Be More Open to Loving Yourself.

Download Your Daily “What I Love About Me” Worksheet and remind yourself everyday that there are things you love about yourself.